too man for man
I feel that it is really scary to not know what you are living for and what you want in life. Yes, everyone will strive to reach the 'top'. The imaginary direction to being superior, or perhaps just to signify that you may be closer to heaven.
However, is that always better? And when you have finally reached the 'top', then what next? Go even higher? Where? How?
I had a little conversation with the Vietnamese housemate yesterday, as he was in need of someone to talk to. I could tell that he's somewhat lost and lonely. And he asked, "I leave my house, my family, my girlfriend, my friends to come here. For what?", "I cannot live here anymore, so boring! I want to finish this three years fast fast!" (in a typical Vietnamese accent). "Well, ask yourself!", I said as a matter-of-factly. For I could never answer that for him.
He mentioned to me that he want to have everything in life. And I questioned him, so what is everything? And he said "Job, happy family and passion!" as the top three priority.
Then what is he doing here?!?!?
I asked him, now, how many people in Vietnam studies in the University? "30%" he replied.
"Then the other 70?", "they find job" and I interupted, "then they have job, they have family, if they have passion, then doesn't that make them people who have everything already?"
"but that not good job!"
Now, I have alot of issues about this statement, but I shall not talk about it now...
Anyway, I believe that he do not really know what to do with his life. All he knew was studying, though he do wish to see the world for 15 years before going back to his home country. I can understand why he would want to be out of there. However, pardon my bluntness, but how can he ever be able to stay away from home for that long when he refuses to cook, wash or clean! Let alone taking care of himself to start with. To me, learning to cook and sew can and is part of experiencing life, but he was not about to see my point.
"Then what do you want to experience?", there was no answer.
Horror of horrors, he told me that he was staying at the college before and he wore his clothes for 2weeks, and never washed them. When he finally ran out of clothes to wear, he took out the soiled clothes and sun them and wore them back again! (no wonder his room have a constant stinge all the time). He said that Vietnamese guys do not care about image. But this goes beyond IMAGE! It's the full package as a modern Man. You might have heard of such stories, but now I've met one!
Is this a personal fault, or a social and cultural fault?
I feel sorry for him, yet at the same time, I don't think he really deserve our compassion. For he was the one that had deprived himself of knowing how to handle life beyond his books. I feel that he is really missing out alot in life and that his concept about living is too narrow!
He is like an old musical box that can only play one tune. In order for him to function, he need someone to wind him up. He had popped his head out of the box to see the world but he really only liked the moments of surprise that he gets when he popped out. Constantly, playing the same old tune, he is not able to add or make a new tune out of the experience that he's having. *tsk *tsk
He is like an old musical box that can only play one tune. In order for him to function, he need someone to wind him up. He had popped his head out of the box to see the world but he really only liked the moments of surprise that he gets when he popped out. Constantly, playing the same old tune, he is not able to add or make a new tune out of the experience that he's having. *tsk *tsk
Somebody, please break open this box and change the mechanism abit...
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but honestly..
nothin much to read bout..
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u've got really neat post in here.. haha..
nice to hear frm u again..
n u can check outta my blog..
but honestly..
nothin much to read bout..
jus my avenue of ranting utter rubbish.. hah.. still..
do tag! so i'll noe u've dropped by.. ((:
www.germainejw-.blogspot.com
peace outta, :DD
hey babe,
thanks for the compliment and for dropping by..
I've tried tagging at your site, but unfortunately, I'm behind the school's firewall... arrrgggg... Can't do anything about it.
I've heard all about the camps, it is really upsetting. Not to mention that it had become a dangerous job to do!
So please take care and take care of our dear full timer friends too.
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thanks for the compliment and for dropping by..
I've tried tagging at your site, but unfortunately, I'm behind the school's firewall... arrrgggg... Can't do anything about it.
I've heard all about the camps, it is really upsetting. Not to mention that it had become a dangerous job to do!
So please take care and take care of our dear full timer friends too.
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